5 Tales Of Terrible Dates
Don’t be one of these characters!
Dating can be an exciting time or a time filled with uncertainty especially if it’s a blind date or meeting someone you met online.
Dating in the past was very different from this era. People would ‘court’, some had chaperones to make sure nothing went past holding hands. I wasn’t born in that generation but definitely heard about it!
In my younger days dating was meeting someone at a rave (club) or at a house party, exchanging numbers and then going to the cinema and/or a restaurant as well as friends introducing potential dates…
When online dating picked up to the point it was advertised on the television I didn’t dare go near it. I had my doubts about it especially hearing tales about catfishing (when someone pretends to be someone else), scary situations & hearing of people who had been stood up…
However, there were the successful ones, leading to fulfilling relationships & marriages.
Here’s a mixture of weird & terrible dates I’ve experienced, let’s reminisce!
The ‘I I I’ Date Bore— this type of person is self absorbed. They love to talk about themselves non-stop!
Tale 1 — I talked to a guy online for a little while, he was a manager and seemed quite interesting. We met up in a fancy restaurant, he was chivalrous and pleasant but he barked on about himself for ages. “I this..”, “I that..” oh and “I, I …” again. Boooooring! This right there was very off-putting, no suspense, no room to add a word, no chance to even ask him questions, the intrigue definitely left the restaurant. Perhaps he was nervous you may think, I understand talkative nervousness but when an individual just keeps going on about themselves this is just unattractive!
The possesive one
Some people seriously have control issues. They need to be in charge of everything & everyone. I understand wanting order or wanting to be a boss but meeting someone for the first time and hearing “our" future life plan is a no-no.
Tale 2 - I met a guy & we went to a restaurant. He was charming but his control issues hijacked our date. He wanted me to call him “boyfriend”…erm do I know you?
He disliked that I had a picture of my brother as my WhatsApp status stating “Happy birthday to my lil bro…” He got jealous… this was a direct red flag! He kept calling many times after our date, wanting to meet again not understanding clear words expressing the opposite.
The stalker — this is someone who doesn’t get disinterest, someone who turns up unannounced and follows you. This is creepy, can be scary and is just plain weird!
Tale 3 — so this was someone I knew for years. We dated a few times. Then he ended up turning up in the area I lived countless times begging to meet up regardless of whether I was around. The type that expects you to drop everything in a heartbeat irrespective of the situation. Damn right inconsiderate. Even when I was on an acting performance job away he said he’d drive nearly 50+ miles to stay at the hotel. I declined wondering why he hadn’t understood that I wasn’t interested in pursuing anything further as it was becoming too much! This went on for a year, he tried contacting on social media after he was blocked via calls. This is definitely not something to aspire to. There’s trying and then there’s trying too hard to the point you will drive away the person you are lusting after.
The Liar — liars will perpetually lie about themselves, their interests, their intentions… damn near everything! So much that they start believing their lies.
Tale 4 - this man was older by 10 years, seemed well traveled and intelligent. We talked for a short while & we appeared to have a lot in common, well no, he led me to believe that… On the day of our date, I quickly realised his pictures were completely different from what he actually looked like. He looked 20 years older than his pictures. Perhaps the pictures were of his son? People will go to great lengths to deceive others. He was what we from the UK would call a ‘cheapskate’, we went to Starbucks, the problem is his personality wasn’t shining like a star and he didn’t have any bucks. He asked for us to pretend that we were taking away so he could spare roughly 50p. Now I understand hard times and I was someone who would’ve paid for my own, no problem, but he insisted on paying just not for the service or for sitting inside. That was one thing, then when discussing his travels, it seemed he had lied from the get go. He hated it. He hated going to theatres, he hated films… basically everything he had pretended to love. He babbled on about other things… I just can’t remember, it was just lie after lie clear from his contradictory statements.
Taken Flirtatious People — these type of people are deceptive, they play with fire. They break all rules, they have a spouse or partner and leave that important part out as if it’s non- existent.
Tale 5 — I met a guy at my local gym, he was a worker there. He kept flirting and asking questions about what I was doing on the weekend etc. I played hard to get as I thought he was the typical type to do this with every girl that entered but I never witnessed this… he ignored others but kept showing an interest.
I was about to give in to a request to see him outside of the surroundings as we ended up walking around in the park near the gym many times. THEN one day his colleague told me that “You know he’s married don’t you?” This was shocking, he never wore a wedding band and never spoke about any partner.
I assumed he was a bachelor as he didn’t care who saw his flirtations, even his manager witnessed it. I asked him and then it all came out, he also had a new born… He tried to use lines such as “Where were you 4 years ago? I would’ve married you.” Oh wow what a great proposition, sitting at home with a new born baby while this one pretends he’s single… this is not what anyone deserves!!
Thankfully not all my dates were terrible! I had some memorable moments & not all online dates were weird either.
In the dating world you have to learn to say no. No to liars, no to stalkers, no to taken people, no to possessive ones. No in the right situation is empowering. Never settle for less than who you deserve and know your worth. Above all don’t be one of the characters described above.
My dates now are wonderful with my husband, our first date was very exciting, memorable and I look back and I’m grateful that I said no to the others and yes to him!
If you are dating, I advise you to let someone know where you’re going (yes this applies to men too, ever heard of ‘honey trap’?) and use your intuition, your heart & eyes can lead you to the wrong situations, your discernment will save you from wasting time invested in a rotten seed. Sow good seeds and the tree of love will spread it roots and the right fruit will be created.
All the best to those dating!
Thanks for reading!
